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But the solidifying factor was when he straight up told me he had never loved me, and that I was the primary source of his anxiety and depression. I refused to believe this because I did so much for him, as much as doing all of his coursework (we were in the same classes in college) to relieve the "pressure" he felt. That was when I realized alright, you can't be or don't want to be better, and it has nothing to do with me. Buy it:  Premium Same City Same Passion 2020 Shirt

Except one day grandma comes home from work and she walks into her house and finds my father's new wife in bed with my grandfather. So grandpa was fuckin my dad's wife. This made the whole family fucking explode for 55-60+ years. My grandma divorced grandpa. My father divorced his first wife. Back in WW2, she had to work with all the men away fighting. So when the men came back, she still worked. She married my grandfather(who I'm named after), they had my father(who I'm named after, too. Technically, I'm the 5th) and a couple more children. Grams still worked. Everybody worked. Buy it:  Funny Kevin Home Alone Ugly Christmas Shirt

Oh boy. This is a story that involves generations of a family. My entire life, there's been these little rifts between various family members and groups of the family. As a kid, it never fully comes together, but I finally pieced it all together and the story fits perfectly here.So the year is like 1958-1960 and my father has a new wife. He's working two jobs and he buys two houses to fix up. One house near one job, another house near the second job. He fixes one room, lives in that one room, fixes the rest of the house. He's working frantically to provide for his new family, new baby and wife. Fix them up a house. Buy it:  Happy Ho Ho Ho Homo Happy Holigays Ugly Christmas Shirt

I was depressed because of all the debt, she said I didn’t communicate enough with her. After about 5 months we were sleeping in separate rooms and she was looking at other apartments. She finally moved out after 1 year and 5 months of marriage. Come to find out she was sleeping with other guys in that last month before she moved out. But at this point it doesn’t even matter. Buy it:  Pretty Im Claustrophobic Darren Ugly Christmas Shirt

A month later i had to leave for work for 5 months to another state. We only got to see each other once. About halfway through. Once I get back, she was in the process of looking for a new job and still doing school full time. And I also was working full time and attempting to start school full time as well. On top of some major house problems that caused us to not have heat for two months of the winter. During that time our dog got sick costing us another 6k in credit card debt. Buy it:  Top Love Grinch #KinderTeacher Christmas Shirt

So after our initial first year of marriage, half of which I was gone for, and the other half spent building about 20k of debt, we really weren’t in a happy marriage. I spent most of my time making sure we were sticking to our budget to make sure we were debt free by the end of the year. This forced us to get a roommate. Which just caused more stress. Marriage counseling didn’t help because we had a terrible counselor we should have never gone back to after the first appt.  Buy it:  Hot What Up Grinches Shirt

After we finally got into the house my wife decided she really needed liposuction. (She weighed 125 at 5’2). I couldn’t convince her that she was beautiful and didn’t need it. But she started to despise me saying I just wasn’t a supporting husband. And that she was going to do it regardless. So that put us 10k in debt since she had to put it on credit cards. On top of the 6k of credit card debt due to our dog having some major surgeries. Buy it:  Top Quarantine Christmas 2020 Dabbing Santa Mask Elf Mask T-Shirt

We were engaged and interested in buying a house. Worst decision ever. A terrible realtor and a broker that strung us along really caused a lot of stress. We eloped during the process because we thought it would make thing easier but it was a terrible time to get married. So we started off what’s supposed to be a super happy time with a 3 month terribly stressful process of getting us a home. The whole time we were both working full time and she was doing school full time. Buy it:  Pretty Mancheste City Fourmidables Shirt

I confronted her multiple times about it, I would turn into the bad guy. She would say things like “You don’t support me leaving work and hate me” she would literally tell me I hated her. I thought she was depressed.... I said something. I became the bad guy for thinking she was “crazy.” I was just trying to help. Looking back on it... she probably was depressed or a severe stress reaction to the change in lifestyle because she was a totally different person and I mean TOTALLY different. But she refused professional help and refused to hear my side. Buy it:  Nice This Is My Christmas Pajama Shirt Family 2020 Funny Xmas T-Shirt

We were together for 4 years prior. Everything was great. Trips together. Her ideas and my ideas all intertwined. I thought I hit the jackpot. She would surprise me by cleaning my place and doing dishes, making dinner, etc (I work a lot... like 80ish hrs a week, but only for a few years then it was go to normal 8-5 type stuff). Buy it:  Official Love Grinch #BusAide Christmas Shirt

Best man for a friend whose divorce happened 3 years after the ceremony but marriage only last 2 months and some change. He was/is the nicest guy in the world, but a bit soft and naive, and had a pregnancy scare with a women who was barely more than a one night stand (she was on the farthest fringes of the friend group). She lies about pregnancy for 3 months and then says miscarriage- he forgives her. She has tons of baggage- he helps her carry it. Hes got a nice chunk of change from his parents passing- she so lovingly helps herself. Finally she convinces him to marry her and then she runs off with her "step brother" (her bf who she had on the side the whole time) 2 months after. Took forever to convince him to divorce and track her down. Buy it:  Good Cover Tee San Diego Chargers 2009 Ladainian Tomlinson Shirt

We separated a year after the wedding and formally divorced another year after that (which was the minimal legal requirement). Interestingly we’re both in new relationships but are very close friends. I don’t think we were a bad match but I think we jumped the gun with marriage. My attitude about marriage now is that it’s definitely not something that “has” to happen because it’s society’s preconceived notion of what makes a relationship more serious. I’m not against it and I am happy when people get married if that’s what they want but in my case, I think I just did it because it felt like the thing to be done, rather than really wanting to be married and thinking it through. Buy it:  Mice Love Grinch #4thGradeTeacher Christmas Shirt

I don’t think I got married for the “right reasons”, wherever the right reasons are. We had been together for a few years and were the right age and I know my family were expecting this next phase. They never actually pressured me but I assumed it would make everyone happy, including myself. My then fiancé/partner was more go with the flow and wasn’t that into the notion of marriage but went along with it to make me happy. We spent a lot of money and effort and after a year, the relationship fizzled. Maybe I could have made it work but I wasn’t in the best state of mind at the time and suddenly all I wanted was out. Buy it:  Funny Love Grinch #BusDriverLife Christmas Shirt

When I was on a night out with him and some friends and found out that he had been fucking one of those friends for over a month. It annoys me that I wasn't stronger and told him to do one there and then. Instead I tried to get him to stay and save our marriage for our 2 kids. Looking back I wish I'd told him to get lost that night. Buy it: Good Merry Swishmas Ugly Christmas Sweaters Funny Basketball Player Gift T-Shirt

I wanted to be more in the moment and focus on being together instead of having to take direction and pose for more pictures (which were just of me, not us together). He got furious with me and made me feel guilty about how much money he spent on this camera to take pictures, saying that he bought the camera to “capture my beauty” and I should be grateful because he “did it for me”. I was crying at this point, but he doubled down on being a jerk- making me feel like I was the control freak, telling me I need to work on “demanding things be done my way all the time”. A whole lot of stuff followed, but sitting there crying on the bathroom floor of our honeymoon villa was not a great way to celebrate the start of our (short) married life together. Buy it:  Hot Things I Hate Funny Programmer Gamer Birthday Christmas Gift T-Shirt

We didn’t get divorced within a year, but I knew on our honeymoon. He kept insisting on making me pose for pictures everywhere we went; normally not a weird thing, but he insisted on very specific poses for what face to make, where to put my hands, which direction to focus my gaze... I wasn’t comfortable with my picture being taken that much, and I asked him if we could just enjoy our last dinner at the resort without all of the photos.  Buy it:  Awesome Sta Wars And Mandalorian Friend Merry Christmas 2020 Shirt

I was a zombie by the end of the first year. Before the kids were one, she sat me down and gave me an ultimatum: I was to go to counselling and sort out my 'issues' (I was asking her to find work, please) or she wanted a divorce. That was my choice. After 18 months of workin two+ jobs, keeping house and dealing with in home separation and demanding behaviour, it was an easy choice to make. Buy it:  Top Merry Fishmas Ugly Christmas Sweater Gift For Fisher Fishmen Fish Lovers T-Shirt

First 5 years was hell. We got divorced, the court ordered psych eval because she then claimed I was abusive and neglectful. The psychiatrist and three counsellors told her she had some form of PPD and needed help, she took that really badly and tried to skip the country with the kids. In retrospect, she should have married her uncle, it seems he was her idol. Buy it:  Top Gnomes Pittsburgh Steeler Merry Christmas 2020 Shirt

Two weeks after we got married, she came home and announced she had quit her job; she felt it was not worth her time to work for small money (she was above minimum wage in a new field for a short time). We just bought a house, her a car and we had two motorcycle payments being made none of which I could afford on one salary. Also, her being home all day, I found the heating for the house was constantly at 25+ deg so the heating bill doubled overnight. Buy it:  Perfect Love Grinch #2ndGradeTeacher Christmas Shirt

Sad to hear that guys... in my case, i love my wife more than yesterday and it looks like tomorrow more than today. Every day more and more and I hope it will be like this till i die. I remember when i saw her the first time and i said to myself „i‘ll marry her“ and i predicted it well, i could write 10 Books of our relationship LOL hope u guys find the same luck and love like me. Dont forget, a marriage should be two people are getting one, no space for selfish acts, but a looot of space for talking about everything and all problems will be solved, dont ignore them. Its like a bill u have to pay, if u are ignoring it, it will come again and bigger than it was. Have a nice day people. Buy it:  Premium Mickey Mouse Its The Most Magical Time Of The Year Shirt

Called off an engagement after a mental breakdown on my ex's end took them from 'highly possessive and jobless, but sweet, funny and willing to do stuff around the house' to 'highly controlling (to the point of not letting me leave the house at times), in need of 24/7 unpaid therapy, and just constantly talking about how terrible everything about their life + the world was'. Broke it off when I realised I had become suicidal myself. Buy it:  Good Cute Merry Christmas Leopard Print Tree Gift Christmas Xmas T-Shirt

She would take his side on everything and only made him worse in my opinion. Like everything wrong with our relationship was my fault and I was just being delusional, plus she gave him advice on how to be more subtle with his controlling behavior. After we finally got divorced (all of this takes place in the same year, it stills hard to for me to believe because that was the longest year of my life) he told me he cheated on me, six months into our relationship. I was so angry with him. I got punished because he felt guilty, not to mention the fact, since he told me after the divorce that meant he was never planning to tell me in marriage! Buy it:  Original The Grinch Santa To-Do List Fishing Avoid Slapping Christmas Shirt o 

For context, she had manufactured a whole issue with my mother in her head, there was no reason for her to have an issue with her, years of therapy and trying to sort it out in my head the only conclusion I could come to was she was threatened that I was close to my mum and she couldn’t control her the way she controlled me. Buy it:  Pretty Love Grinch #3rdGr cher Christmas Shirt cher Christmas Shirt

It was the moment I knew I had to get away, so when he left for the work (traveling) next day. I moved out. I "broke up" with him and told him I wanted nothing to do with him again. We were common law married so I still had to technically divorce him by state law. So he got a hold of my dad and my dad tried to convince me to get back with him. My dad liked him but I never told him what he did to me. If I did my dad would've...well you know how protective dad's are of their daughters. He wanted to go to therapy to try and fix our problems. I went to therapy with him and I hated his therapist.  Buy it:  Official ACDC Angus Young Brian Johnson Phil Rudo Malcolm Young Cliff Williams Signatures Shirt

He did the one thing I was not okay with and wouldn't take laying down. He hit me. Straight across the face. In that moment, it wasn't the pain on my cheek that I felt. It was the pain of betrayal that I felt. Someone I loved more than anything in this world, hurt me not only mentally and emotionally but psychically as well. That night I went through a lot of emotions. I wanted to die. I hated my life, I hated my husband. I just wanted to end it all but I never had the courage because if I did my mom would cry. I couldn't do that to her and I didn't believe in divorce... That changed quickly after he hit me. It was like something in my brain finally snapped and it just said ENOUGH! Buy it:  Hot Grinch Face Mask Stank Stink Stunk Christmas Shirt

I lost friends because he wouldn't let me go out unless he thought it was okay(which was never). He became very controlling, very quickly. He would time me driving from one place to another. He would drive to those places and he knew exactly how long it would take me to get there. If I was a second late or even early. He would call me and ask me where I was at. Who was I with. I am a huge bookworm and love barnes and noble so I would go there as my kind of get away from the heck I was living. After what felt like years of torture (only about four months)... Buy it:  Nice Yes Sir I Can Boogie Shi

It got the point that he would scream at me and I would just take it. I did scream back a couple of times but I realized really quick that only made things worse. He would call me names and down talk me all the time. I felt ugly and stupid every time he spoke to me. He would make fun of me all the time in front of friends and not the 'haha I'm kidding' kind of way, it was cruel and mean and meant to put me down.  Buy it:  Nice Ho Ho Ho Santa Periodic Table Science Chemistry Christmas T-Shirt e 

 Well that changed after I started a new full time job. I worked 60+ hours a week plus traveled one hour to work and one hour from work to home. So I was barely home myself. That's when the cheating thing became all he wanted to talk about it. It got to the point, no matter what, I tried to talk to him about. Like fiances or even just a date night or even having a child together, he would immediately want to fight about me cheating. I would like to say I never cheated on him, even during this heckish time. Buy it:  Good Merry Fucking Christmas Rick And Morrty Shirt

He traveled for work so he would be gone a couple of days at a time. He started to travel on longer trips. Being gone for two to four weeks straight. After the first two weeks he would ask if I was cheating. For some reason this didn't strike me as odd and I just replied no every time. It's not like I had anything to hide so the question just seemed like a question. Buy it:  Funny All I Need Is Listening To AC DC It Is Too Peopley Outside Shirt

So after he proposed he wanted me to move in. Okay I can handle that. It's what you do when your in love and getting married, right? So upon moving in with him and unpacking that final box seems like my new life is going to be super great. It was like a switched had been flipped for him. He went from showing no red flags to every single red flag being switched on. Of course, this is my first time dealing with this kind of thing. For some reason my brain processed this as normal even though part of felt this wasn't right. Buy it:  Awesome Johnny Cash Man In Black Signature Shirt

The same night of our wedding, during the celebration, I was dancing with my high school girlfriends and a friend came to tell me my new husband was sitting alone in the garden. I went out, he was mad and jealous, he said he didn't feel like dancing and that I was spending too much time with my friends. We left before the cake ( like 4 hours before the end). I missed my wedding celebration. Everybody had so much fun, except for me. The sad part is that I should've divorced sooner, it took me 5 years of mistreatment and violence to finally do it. Buy it:  Hot I'm Dreaming Of Wine Christmas Wine Drinking Lover Xmas Gift T-Shirt

 I think they spent their entire relationship barely seeing each other, as both were busy at work and had different schedules. She was always complaining at work that he hadn’t paid for any of the wedding and hadn’t organised the one thing he was meant to, the band. She bought two wedding dresses, and spent absolutely insane amounts of money on this perfect wedding. About 3 month later they were breaking up because she missed her job and the money, and he missed his old life of hanging out with his mates every night after work and seeing her only on weekends. They really should never have gotten married in the first place as they clearly weren’t compatible. Buy it:  Nice Naughty Nice Epstein Didnt Kill Himself Shirt

A girl I worked with. The whole thing was a bit odd because she kept saying things like “I have to try or I will never know” which is clearly not the thing you should be thinking before marriage. Her partner told her she couldn’t work her job after getting married (she was a manager in a night club working nights obviously but made amazing money she wouldn’t make anywhere else because the owners were best friends with her) and she told him that he couldn’t go out every night with his mates anymore if he expects her to be at home. Buy it:  Pretty This Is My Christmas Pajama Karate Shirt

Relationship over 5 years. Her parents didnt approve of us living together before marriage. We fought constantly during the relationship, but not being able to see each other everyday helped make seeing each other special so we got over the fights. However, once we married and lived together, there was no time away and we didnt know how to cope with that. Fights lasted days, apologizes were never given and grudges and resentments built until I decided and told myself this wasnt right and wasnt good for either of us. Marriage lasted 7 months. Buy it: Perfect Mickael Veut Une Bière Shir

I ignored a lot of red flags. Like, it wasn't normal to only keep £7 of your monthly salary for yourself, while he got to keep a couple of hundred back (and I earned more money). That he could go to the pub all of the time while I was on maternity leave looking after our twins. That his parents could completely steamroll me, and my wishes were completely ignored. The guy shoved me into a wardrobe because a male friend sat on my knee for five seconds. I was always wrong, even when I was 100% right. Buy it:  Happy I'm On The Naughty List And I Regret Nothing Best Christmas Gift Shirt

Got married last August, separated in June this year. My wedding was probably a huge sign that it was a mistake. You're meant to be excited and nervous, right? I literally felt nothing on the way to the ceremony. The ceremony itself I just felt awkward, and not once did he call me beautiful. Considering I was wearing the most expensive, spectacular item of clothing I had ever worn, and it was my fucking wedding day. I was too drunk to care by the end of it. Buy it:  Awesome What The Elf Funny Christmas Pajama Shirt

Got married last August, separated in June this year. My wedding was probably a huge sign that it was a mistake. You're meant to be excited and nervous, right? I literally felt nothing on the way to the ceremony. The ceremony itself I just felt awkward, and not once did he call me beautiful. Considering I was wearing the most expensive, spectacular item of clothing I had ever worn, and it was my fucking wedding day. I was too drunk to care by the end of it. Buy it:  Premium Coffee Speec peat Shirt peat Shirt

I ignored a lot of red flags. Like, it wasn't normal to only keep £7 of your monthly salary for yourself, while he got to keep a couple of hundred back (and I earned more money). That he could go to the pub all of the time while I was on maternity leave looking after our twins. That his parents could completely steamroll me, and my wishes were completely ignored. The guy shoved me into a wardrobe because a male friend sat on my knee for five seconds. I was always wrong, even when I was 100% right. Buy it:  Awesome Trying My Best Shirt

A week passed and I asked her how far she was with arranging a council. She told me she was not going to do that and she found a mediator, because she wanted a divorce and I didn't. That wasn't the deal, so I told her that (no yelling or fighting at all) and it was pretty unfair that she wanted to leave but still lived in the (rented) apartment. She agreed and left that evening. Buy it:  Perfect Fa La La La L alhalla La Skull Merry Christmas Shirt

She lived for a few weeks with her mother. Mind you, we still were in the band together. Her mom was living in a tiny house which really didn't have room, so she moved to the apartment of the singer of the band who just broke up with his girlfriend. He had plenty of space and they both asked if I had problems. I said no, the only thing I want to know when you have a relation. About 2 months later she got a relation with the singer which she told me. The band stayed together for another 2 months after that (and still actively doing shows) but eventually the singer left because he couldn't handle that the ex-husband of his girlfriend was in the band. Obviously, the girl left too and that was the end of the band. I've lost my marriage and my band (which I've worked very hard for) within a few months, that was not a great time. Buy it:  Premium December Birthday 2020 The One Where I’m Quarantined Xmas Shirt

A year passed and we got married and all. Everything seemed fine, we had a job, a relatively successful band and were happy. But the tension started when we were together in our apartment. More and more. No fighting, just being like a brother/sister. She was away a lot (either therapy or doing her sports) and came home very late. Buy it:  Pretty Understanding Engin rcussive Maintenance Electrical Shirt rcussive Maintenance Electrical Shirt

At some point, I think we were married for 9 or 10 months, while watching TV and relaxing. She suddenly said: I want a divorce. I asked why and she told me the life she was having, was not the life she wanted to have. She wanted to be somebody else. This was caused by the therapy. However, I wanted to work on the relation so I proposed to go for marriage counseling and since she had the contacts, she would arrange it. Sure.. Buy it:  Perfect That’s What I Do I Beat Cancer And I Know Things Vintage Shirt

Obviously we went to the police the next day and they brought him to court. In the Netherlands, at that time, if you were victim, the state takes over from the victim and will do all the talking and bring him to court. Since I lost a good amount of hearing (as musician), I wanted to sue him for that. That's possible in 2 ways, either a private to private court or use the abuse. Of course the latter is the way to go, which I did. But that can only be done if you are mentally okay with the abuse and it will be tested. I was fine, but it was discovered that my girlfriend / almost wife was having all these mental issues from her youth. She went into therapy to fix that. Buy it:  Pretty Parrot Santa Lights  y Christmas Shirt

Yes, literally.. he hit me twice before I fell on the floor and while I was laying there, he started to kick me in the head with his steel-nosed shoes. My almost wife started to scream and went inside, the band jumped off stage and stopped their roadie from killing me by removing him from me. I remember regaining my consciousness and hearing my girl scream and secondly noticing blood from my ear and not able to hear on that side. We rushed to the hospital and thankfully I only had a few scratches and lost about 20% of my hearing on one side. Buy it:  Funny Mona Lisa Ho Ho Hol Mir Ein Bier Christmas Sweat Shirt

The bandmembers were either 22 or 25 and then making music like Buddy Holy, Elvis, Jerry Lee Lewis (yes, we had a pianist) and 4-voiced harmonies were awesome. Obviously, we went to see the competition (not really, but other bands in our genre). About 2 years after we started dating we went to another band, knowing that her ex boyfriend was there as the roadie of that band (who was convinced she cheated on him with me, which wasn't the case). Buy it:  Funny Trump Lost Get Over It Election 2020 Biden Won Shirt